Are You A Confused Mess Like Me?

I used to have clarity: do as I am expected. Now that I’m resigned from that game, I have to sort out who I am and what I want.

One benefit of doing what you’re told is you never have to figure out what you want. There are plenty of scripts we can follow, from our family’s expectations to norms enforced by our patriarchal society, and each promises to release us from the responsibility of shaping our own…