When You Just Can’t Fix a ‘Fixer’

Victoria Strake
3 min readOct 5, 2020

We can’t stop them from giving advice, but we can be a bit less annoyed by it — science shows us how.

Photo by Eugen Str on Unsplash

I don’t think anyone enjoys hearing sentences that start with ‘you should’; no one wants to be told how to live their life — especially if their life isn’t going well. Yet those we care about are often guilty of doing this instead of giving us the sympathy we’re looking for. This is annoying even when it…

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Victoria Strake

Essayist, former scientist, trans woman. Striving for actionable methods of peaceful revolution — relationships, community, mutual aid, subsistence, science.